I was telling a friend how someone I had recently met triggered my “I’m not good enough” belief. She asked how I thought I wasn’t good enough.
I said because this person was physically fit, intelligent, emotionally aware and vulnerable, spiritually evolved and had done a lot of personal development work on themselves.
She said, “But that’s how I see you.”
It made me remember that we rarely see ourselves (at least I rarely see myself) as others see us.
We can be incredibly hard on ourselves. I judge myself far more harshly than others do.
So for today, or at least in this moment, I choose to see myself as others see me. And I choose to let that be enough.
Even if I can’t sustain it for more than a moment, I choose to let that be enough too.
It’s a nice reminder that as we grow and are challenged, our insecurities can come up because we’re playing at a different level; we’re playing a bigger game.
It’s not a bad thing, or a reason to think we’ve regressed; it’s more that we’re no longer in grade 6 at Primary School, we’re now in year 7 at Secondary School. It’s growth, it’s development, it’s exciting, and scary too.
So as “I’m not good enough” comes up, think, “Yay, I’m moving forward; I’m growing and progressing!”.
And be kind to yourself, no matter what your experience is.